Fake Orgasms? Now There's PROOF!!

New research indicates parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are switched off when a woman is having an orgasm but remain active if she is faking.

In the first study to map brain function during orgasm, scientists from the Netherlands also found that as a woman climaxes, an area of the brain governing emotional control is largely deactivated.

"The fact that there is no deactivation in faked orgasms means a basic part of a real orgasm is letting go. Women can imitate orgasm quite well, as we know, but there is nothing really happening in the brain," said neuroscientist Gert Holstege, presenting his findings Monday to the annual meeting of the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology.
In the study, Holstege and his colleagues at Groningen University recruited 11 men, 13 women and their partners.

The volunteers were injected with a dye that shows changes in brain function on a scan. For men, the scanner tracked activity at rest, during erection, during manual stimulation by their partner and during ejaculation brought on by the partner's hand.

For women, the scanner measured brain activity at rest, while they faked an orgasm, while their partners stimulated their clitoris and while they experienced orgasm.

Holstege said he had trouble getting reliable results from the study on men because the scanner needs activities lasting at least two minutes and the men's climaxes didn't last that long. However, the scans did show activation of reward centers in the brain for men, but not for women.

Holstege said his results on women were more clear. When women faked orgasm, the cortex, the part of the brain governing conscious action, lit up. It was not activated during a genuine orgasm. Even the body movements made during a real orgasm were unconscious, Holstege said. The most striking results were seen in the parts of the brain that shut down, or deactivated. Deactivation was visible in the amygdala, a part of the brain thought to be involved in the neurobiology of fear and anxiety.

"During orgasm, there was strong, enormous deactivation in the brain. During fake orgasm, there was no deactivation of the brain at all. None," Holstege said.

Shutting down the brain during orgasm may ensure that obstacles such as fear and stress did not get in the way, Holstege proposed. "Deactivation of these very important parts of the brain might be the most important necessity for having an orgasm," he said.

Donald Pfaff, professor of neurobiology and behavior at Rockefeller University in New York, said the interpretations were reasonable. "It makes poetic sense," said Pfaff, who was not connected with the research.

Traveling with Sex Toys...and not getting caught!

If the fear of getting “caught” with your favorite sex toy prevents you from bringing them along, then read on. Or maybe it turns you on.....well, read on anyway. A little planning, and you'll be all set.

If you're flying, best not carry-on. You might be a little red-faced at security, entertaining for your fellow travelers. Check a bag or, if you only travel with carry-on, select one of the discreet adult toys below.

If you have a private getaway planned, then bring it all on. Otherwise, you might want to bring something with a lock on it, especially if traveling with kids. A waterproof toy can be used discreetly in the shower or bath, or a really quiet toy for late-night. If it's a tropical vacation, with a pool, jacuzzi etc., then a waterproof toy is simply a must. Don't leave home without it. There are a lot of smaller size pocket rockets to choose from if you're pressed for space.

By the way, be creative. A shower massager or spa jet can definitely take the place of a vibrator.

If you’re having trouble deciding which of your favorite toys to bring along, lay them all out and then pick out the cream of the crop. A curved vibrator can be used on the clit, G spot, prostate, and nipples.....think multi-use. Also, a finger or tongue vibrator can be used for self pleasure and/or help get either or both of you off.

A few discreet suggestions:

Lipstick Vibrator. Just what it sounds like, just another beauty product in your carry-on or purse.

Vibra-Pen. Tuck it into your shirt pocket or purse. These pen-shaped vibrators often double as a real pen. Perfect to write your next sexy blog chapter or a steamy love letter.

Rubber Duckie. The come in yellow and black. Looks just like your childhood bathtub duckie.

Techno-dildos. Look like pagers or MP3 players etc. Since everyone carries a pager or something like it, it'll pass. They may ask you to turn it on, so be prepared to offer that up.

Some sex toys like plastic flexible dildos, cock rings and bondage toys look like they're supposed to......like sex toys. But then again, glass dildos look like art objects, and leather cock rings double nicely as wristbands. Don't bring or wear a metal cock ring though.... Hard to take off while passing through that metal detection thingie.

Hey, you've got to fight for your right to party and pleasure!! If caught....what the hell. Get them jealous of your attitude. Give them that sultry stare-down and say, “It’s my Rubber Duckie Vibe and it gives me pleasure just thinking about the fun I'm gonna have.” Trust me. There'll be a lot of your fellow passengers looking for one on the Internet or the local sex store that night.....and the security guard....well, depends on what he looks like ladies....right?

Desire on the ebb? Ask your doc about this guys...and ladies!

For you older gents out there.....and some day, you all will be. Finding it a little less interesting when the potential for sex is in the air? We have answers! Something called "hypogonadism" may be responsible. This is a decreased production of hormones from the sex glands. For you anatomy/phsiology 101 flunkies, in men, these are the testes. In women, it is the ovaries (see below at the end of this post). The condition is characterized by symptoms such as impotence, decreased interest in sex, lowered mood, fatigue etc. You get the picture...

So, the answer, under doctor's supervision of course, involves testosterone replacement therapy. This used to mean shots, implants or pills. Today transdermal patches and gels applied to the skin has made it all so much easier.

Testosterone gels can restore libido, mood and energy levels. Studies show that they best mimic the body's own testosterone supply and absorb into the body with the least complications, when compared to other methods of treatment.

Application is pretty simple. With AndroGel, you just apply the gel by hand to your shoulders and upper arms and/or the abdomen. The stuff can rub off and wash off. So, no showers or jacuzzis etc for about 5-6 hours. By the way, it's not an instant response thing. This stuff takes weeks to really kick in, so don't think of it as Viagra. This is more of a baseline booster so you can get back to being your over-sexed self over time.

Like anything else, there may be side effects which can include acne, breast enlargement, emotional instability, high blood pressure, and prostate disorders. So, that's why you need your doc involved. And no, this does not mean you all get man boobs.....these are all just possiblities and depends on how much you use.

So buyer beware, and read up on all the details before going ahead since no-one knows the long term side effects of all this. Ahh, the price we pay for wanting and getting some booty......

Finally, for all the ladies, testosterone is the sex hormone produced by your ovaries which also is also responsible for your sex drive. It's not the estrogen. So, testosterone replacement is available for you too.

Now all.....let's get it started.....let's get is started......

Hey, Condom Size Matters! Pay Attention!

Most men have been there at one time or another. That moment when total sexual exhilaration turns to pure panic and fear...fear that the "little astronaut" out on his moon walk has lost his space suit. Fear that the knight is no longer wearing his shining armor.




The number one reason that condoms break or slip off during the horizontal mambo is that the Johnson in question was not properly dressed. Like shoes or bras, careful consideration must be given to condom size. Yes, all men are created equal — but in very different shapes and sizes when it comes to the trouser department. And while it may not be the size of the wave that floats your boat, when it comes to choosing a condom, size does matter.

Researchers Agree
A recent survey by Durex Condoms revealed that the length of an erect penis can range from four to nine inches, while penis widths can vary from just over one inch to more than two inches. The Durex study also found that 50% of the almost 3,000 survey respondents felt that the condoms they regularly used did not fit properly; 25% said the condoms were "too tight," 10% said they were "much too tight," and 15% responded that the condoms were "too loose" or "much too loose." Not surprisingly, 42% of those surveyed indicated that condoms should be "better shaped." A whopping 44% of those surveyed reported they had experienced condom slippage or breakage problems in the past.

The Durex study concluded, "Given the wide range of penis sizes and the relatively narrow range of condoms designed to fit them, it is perhaps unsurprising to find that 50% of respondents felt that the condoms they use did not fit them properly. The answers provided also indicate that condoms which don't fit properly are more likely to break during use..."

Another study performed by La Trobe University in Australia examined the effect of penis dimension on the probability of complete condom slippage and/or condom breakage in actual use. A total of 3,658 condoms were used by 184 men. Over the course of the study, 16% of the men experienced at least one instance of breakage and 19% experienced complete slippage. The study concluded that condom breakage was strongly associated with penis circumference, particularly for men with above-average girth. In fact, each additional centimeter of penis circumference beyond the average 13.19 cm increased the risk of breakage by 50-100%. Like the Durex study, the
researchers concluded, "This finding suggests a need to increase either the range of condom sizes currently available or the [girth] of currently available condoms."

Erection Rejection
It is no secret that many mendislike wearing condoms. Some Men say that condoms interfere with sex, "getin way," or "kill the mood." Most of the time however, these problems arise because the man has difficulty putting on the condom, or is concerned that the damn thing may slip off.

If a condom is difficult to put on due to size issues, the little soldier may suddenly be unable to stand at attention. A survey conducted by the University of Sydney, Australia found that two-thirds of the men surveyed reported they "sometimes" or "often" lost their erection while trying to put on a condom. Of course without an erection, a condom is impossible to put on at all.

While many men struggle to put on ill-fitting condoms that are too small, many others experience anxiety that the condom may slip off their slimmer girth. This anxiety can also interfere with the ability to keep the flag at full mast. Condoms that are too loose increase the odds of slippage or leakage.

Paradoxically, one of the most common reasons condoms slip off is because they are too tight or too long — if not fully rolled down, the ring at the base can enter the man's partner and be dragged off. Condoms that are too short also increase the risk of exposure to STDs. When condoms are too tight, breakage and slippage is more likely to occur, and sensitivity can be significantly diminished.

The reality is that condom size is very important. Unfortunately, unlike penises, most condoms around the world today are made in a very narrow range of sizes. In fact, the overwhelming majority of condoms do not refer to size at all, and simply are marketed as a "one size fits all" product. While a few companies like Trojan have shown some sensitivity to the size issue by producing some larger sized models, very few such products exist, and even fewer are available for those needing a snugger fit. Millions of men continue to struggle with the "one size fits all" mentality that the condom manufacturers apply to condom size, often leading to very unfortunate results. Given the inherent difficulties in measuring customers to ensure a more tailored condom fit, condom producers simply continue to force round
pegs into square holes.

Revolutionary New Condom is Custom Sized to Fit
The one size fits all concept of condoms is about to change. A revolutionary new line of condoms that features 55 different sizes will now ensure that every man will have a condom that fits him properly. Backed by two patents in ten countries, They-Fit Condoms are available in a multitude of length and girth combinations. This new line offers sizes that go well beyond the limited range of sizes currently available, from three inches long to ten inches long, and from super slim to extra roomy. For the first time ever, condoms are being sold like shoes or bras.

They-Fit Condoms protect both the wearer and his partner, reducing both risk and anxiety. "Men everywhere, regardless of their size, will finally be able to get a
condom that fits properly in order to have the safest and most enjoyable experience possible," says Frank C. Sadlo, the inventor of They-Fit Condoms.

Of course, comfort is what consumers will notice most of all about They-Fit Condoms. A custom "wrap" job for each man begins with the simple "Fit Kit," which can be downloaded from Condomania's Web site (link noted below). The "Fit Kit" enables a man (or even his enthusiastic partner) to quickly and easily measure his penis length and girth according to the Fit Kit's proprietary sizing chart, which then display's the appropriate custom condom size. The dozens of available sizes
ensure that men of all shapes and sizes will be able to be dressed properly for their big events.

Men need not worry how they measure up with the "Fit Kit"; the proprietary numbering system is not relative to actual size. Thus ordering a box of B88's is no more embarrassing than ordering a box of Z11's. According to Sadlo, "It is important to note that these numbers are not relative to other letters and numbers, so that no one will be self conscious about the size of the They Fit Condom they buy."

Check out Condomania.com
which is a pretty comprehensive online bet for whatever you desire in condoms, including the aforementioned They Fit line.
Story by Adam Glickman

Great new protection and hot sex too!

Bare-backing a little too much for your own good? Boring old condoms not what you’re into? Hey, why take the risk? Especially if you can mix protection and pleasure! Here’s a little twist from that’ll excite and protect at the same time! Check this – a battery-operated silicone ring that fits over a normal condom to make it pulsate. Several variations exist and retails at $6-25 (for one). In Australia this has become the No.1-selling condom since its December release. Even people who don't like using condoms and others who have no need for contraception are keenly trying the product – simply for the sensation.


The vibrating condoms, which are either full on units(more expensive) or more like attachable and re-usable vibrating cock rings, are not the only imaginative creations on the market. A scan of your local supermarket or sex store aisle will reveal everything from studded and ribbed rubbers to novelty varieties, including condoms in the shape of devils, hands and horses. For those who like a few tunes to get them in the mood, there are the new musical condoms. Fitted with a mini electronic device connected to tiny sensors, the condom produces songs which get louder as the sex becomes more passionate, while the choice of tune is determined by the position.

Need to cool down a bit? Try the ice condom, containing a special lubricant which cools to create an icy feeling. How about heating up a little faster? Then try the warming condoms, which use the same principle but in reverse.

Pckaging seems to sell too. What a surprise! Packets featuring semi-naked models with a seductive look tended to be the most popular sellers. Packaging also helped make the flavoured and coloured varieties popular, especially in the 18 to 25-year-old market. The more unusual varieties, such as the vibrating and warming condoms, are bought by slightly older customers, aged 24 and over.

The more "out there" condoms also have proven popular with female consumers, with many buying the product purely for fun and to spice up their relationship.

Interested? Here’s one place we found that you can order online for all the above goodies. Simply called CONDOMANIA

There are not too many sites that offer the vibrating condom, and you should definitely check that!

Enjoy!

Gentlemen, start your toys!

OK guys, this one is for you, but ladies can certainly get it started too!! What do your naughty-intentioned evenings amount to? Whether it is a husband-wife, girlfriend-boyfriend situation, or whatever, you might want to make sure it is always energized. Keep it alive. Just say “NO” to a pizza and a movie and boring Saturday same-old-thing sex. Live a little!! One way you can change it up and add a little naughty spice to your sex is to get a sex toy or two and learn how to use it/them. But listen up, you usually can’t just come running up with a vibrating gyrating electronic gizmo and ram it into parts unknown. So, first start off with your significant other and follow some steps to make sure you get this to be a pleasurable experience that keeps on giving. Oh yeah, if you think that sex toys are an insult to your manhood, don’t bother reading the rest of this article. This is meant for those who are exploring new avenues and somehow have missed out on the joys of toys. Used properly you can guarantee hot erotic encounters and a dripping wet pussy every time.

First think about asking her what she thinks about sex shops and the products they sell. If she gets her panties in a bunch and goes on a tirade that sex shops are repulsive and targeted towards perverts, that might just alert you to a red flag running up the pole. Umm, this might mean it’s time for a new more enlightened partner or maybe a little positive attitude adjustment. Make sure you bring up all the positive ways that sex toys can enhance sexual fantasies. It’s all in the pitch. She may immediately have a change of heart. Whatever you do, unless she drags you off to the closest neighborhood sex shoppe dripping with excitement, don’t badger her. Think of this as mind foreplay. Build up the surprise gradually. The next step is to let her know about your fantasies.

OK, it’s a few days later. Now it’s time to tell her about your fantasies. If you present this right, she should get excited enough to want to fulfill your wildest dreams. Maybe this toy concept is a major step for you and her or maybe you are already experienced in swinging and couples stuff. If it’s the latter, as experienced swingers, you are likely to have played with a lot of toys already. If so, just remember that toys can remind you (or foretell) of your hottest couples encounters even when you are playing alone with her only. Anyway, the point is, tell her you want to buy a vibrator, so that she can use it in front of you. Tell her how hot that would make you by watching her pleasure herself first. Make sure you turn on your sexy charm and possibly come out with the direct approach like, "Honey, I want to buy you a sex toy." Or you can try the suggestive approach of "Wouldn't it be fun to try something new?" .

Assuming she agrees (if not, start all over with a little more naughtiness in your suggestions), it’s time to go shopping. Visit a few sex shops together and select the vibrator, and any other toys, she finds hottest and most appealing. Sometimes just reading the instructions can get you going. Some are designed to work on the vagina and clit at the same time, some are Jacuzzi friendly, some are bigger, some smaller bullets…..whatever works in getting aroused thinking and talking about it. While you’re at it, there are always gels, oils, powders, ticklers and all sorts of erotic paraphernalia to enjoy and consider buying. Hey, you’re there. Use the time to your advantage.

If she, or both of you are a bit on the shy side. Have no fear...that is the Internet's forte. Discreet shopping where no one knows who you are. Point, click, pay and a few days later....a discreet package arrives at your door. What could be better. Check out one of the bigger sites with a track record. Here's one for Glass Dildos for example. Glass is the in thing...but there are a lot more on this site and others like it.


OK, now it’s time for the best part, the testing. Remember, her vagina is very delicate so take it easy. No Roger Ramjet simulations at the beginning. You might want to start out with oral stimulation and some light finger and hand action. Help her relax. Get her hot and the juices flowing. If she is not hot yet, try to get her to use it on herself like you fantasized about. Use a little lube if needed. Perhaps enjoy stimulating her breasts or other erogenous zones of her choice, while she uses the toy to her liking. If you are in control of it, allow the vibrator to penetrate smoothly. Move it in and out and alternate with a little clit stimulation. Better, depending on the toy, penetrate and withdraw as you perform a little cunnilingus. Gently give your "sex toy virgin" an experience she will never forget.

Do this right and she will definitely ask you for seconds! But remember to keep changing it up. Don’t keep doing the same old thing. You both have a new sex toy friend. Hmm, a little fantasy and who knows what’s next. Multiple guys, DP, dripping wet hot sex and couples fun, the Naughty Lifestyles way!! Enjoy!

Naughty Group Foreplay Games – Anywhere

Need some icebreakers? Let's get it started then! One way to get the party going, on the fly with minimal props, is to engage in some sexy games foreplay. Here are some samples to enjoy:

Pick any board game that might be available; any rendition of monopoly etc. Add to the board game some more cards with various “naughty forfeits”. These can be fashioned from note/scrap paper and contain any hot instructions that come to mind. Instead of “Do not pass Go and do not collect $200”, perhaps something like “remove some articles of clothing and/or lick or suck a nipple or other body part of the person to your right”, etc. The seductive and naughty suggestions can get hotter and hotter. Have all those in the room add to the pile if you run out of ideas. Share and share alike!

Take Charades or Pictionary and kick it up a few notches! Enact an erotic movie or key moves known to be trademarks of high profile porn stars. See how far you can get by enacting classics like “Deep Throat” or “Debbie Does Dallas” for example. By acting out sex position scenes see how many can guess your fictitious porn-actor name. Perhaps combine the usual naming strategy of using the first street you lived on or first pet you had plus the performance you put on for the group. Get wild in your actions and get some great names to be known by for the rest of the night....perhaps Fellatia Cox! A little libation and we are sure you can get naughty and very creative.

OF course there are a bezzilion ways to work sexual acts into spin the bottle, truth or dare, poker and just about any card or dice game.

Finally, when more articles of clothing are off or loose, take turns being blindfolded. Those who are not blindfolded hide a tasty item (like a berry or Hershey's kiss) somewhere on their naked body, and the blindfolded person gets to try to locate it using ONLY their mouth. So, kissing, licking, sucking and nibbling are all fair game. You can discuss whether or not moving the object is cheating......depends on how good things are going..... When it is found, pass the blindfold, or if the eroticism climbs rapidly......well, the ice has been broken rather successfully right? Enjoy!

Six hand, three tongue massage for her….and more…..

Want to give an ultimate gift to the one you love and are secure with? Well then, let’s set the scene. If you do not have the ready and willing participants in mind, find some sexy partners on Naughty Lifestyles.com.

First a bath, drawn for her and scented with exotic perfumes and aphrodisiac oils. Next, serve up her libation of choice….or champagne, the nectar of the gods, would be very very fine. While you gently soap her down, a soft velvet blindfold is gently placed. Words of assurance, intrigue, and sexy innuendo prepare her for what is to come…..which you promise will be one for the books.

After the bath, sensually pat her dry and carry her to the room where a soft padded area or bed are waiting, along with two (or more) unseen friends. The three of you then begin a soft sensual caressing massage, designed to ever-increase the sexual tension. Anywhere along the line, there is ample opportunity for controlled orgasm……get her to the brink, tease, then back off, several times, ensuring an orgasm to remember when it finally is allowed to explode.

One way to start the massage is for her to lie on her front initially with one person devoting their attention to her neck and shoulders. At the same time, you or the third partner concentrate on the small of the back with a firm yet sensual approach, up and down her spine and the muscles surrounding it. The third, slightly spread her legs and starts with gentle brushes to the inner thighs, climbing higher and higher, interspersed with massage to the calf and thigh muscles themselves. An occasional brush against her wet and receptive labial lips will heighten anticipation. Rotate around so she knows several different people are pleasing her in different areas. Use scented warming oils in all areas to further add to the experience.

Time to turn over. Initially the legs are ever-so-slightly separated and her arms and hands allowed to roam and caress various parts of the massaging trio. Guide and let her touch and feel the aroused organs around her….the stiff throbbing cock(s) and wet pussy or pussies, depending on who the trio are. Rotating around, the same massage in this position is given up and down her body, arms and legs as when she was lying on her front. Special soft, but very intermittent attention is devoted to the breasts and nipples for the moment. Anticipation builds…..

When she feels very wet and ready, one of the participants gently spread and widely splays the legs spread-eagle. That first participant licks the labial lips, and clitoris and creatively uses hands, fingers or toys as the tension is now wildly climbing for her. The other two concentrate with their tongues, lips and gently with the teeth, on her breasts and nipples. Licking the nipples and gently sucking and light biting may all be part of the final arousal.

Make sure her hands and mouth are free to explore and continue to guide her to stiff and wet organs as much as she seems to desire. Remember to actively rotate attention and let her sample the male members’ cocks, initially as a tease….in and out and rotating around…..not yet to the repetitive deep thrusts. Let the vaginal juices really accumulate and the heat build in her receptive pussy. As she gets hotter and begs for more, the thrusting and simultaneous clitoral stimulation increase in response. As she seems ready to explode, remember the power of controlled orgasm….back off and let the other partner in to please and thrust or stimulate after a tension releasing moment or two.

You may not need it, as she should be drowning in her own juices by now, but keep some lube on hand for as long as she can handle it. Keep going until she explodes in ecstasy…. then fulfill her again and again……. as many more times as she desires with the organs and toys available……..